Frustration Part 2

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Answer to frustration Part 2

It is said that part of the American dream is buying a home, having a family and making ends meet. Just be content in what you have. I actually believe you can be happy with what you have and you can be happier when you are able to have more. Things do not make you happy and if they do it is not permanent. Happiness is not achieved by not being able to have those things either. Therefore to be able to pursue your desires, get the things that bring you happiness, help make the people you love happy and most of all spending quality time with the ones you love without having to stress the bills, the lack of time, guilt and all the other chaotic issues you are dealing with in your life.

If all these same things are running through your head over and over then it is time for a change. It is time that you stop and make quiet time to dwell on what you want to change in your life. You may say there is no time for that although there is always time. Make that extra 15 minutes before you fall asleep to think on your ideal life or at least a better life. Start with small things such as getting up 10 minutes earlier, if that is not feasible take a few minutes during your break or lunch. Instead of the first thing on your mind when you wake up of dreading the day to get things done, think of how grateful you are for the things you enjoy and already have in your life. Change your routine a little such as instead of running for the coffee, some social media site, news or email. Try reading a 5 minute inspirational article, something that feels good inside and resonates with you. Did you get that? Yes something inspirational starting your day first thing can affect your whole day not to mention the quality of your mood. It could also be something you enjoy such as gardening, cooking or any hobby. I love nature, animals and cooking so I get excited about a new recipe which only takes me 5 minutes to view and print out or get a snap shot on my phone so as to pick up that extra ingredient needed when on the road. Also it lifts my spirit seeing an article or picture of an animal rescued. I love a walk around the neighborhood on a pretty morning even if only 10 minutes to clear my head. Do not be quick to jump on the Internet to see the headlines of a fear based article of the next epidemic, killing spree or whatever perceived negative thing that can be thrown in your mind first thing in the morning or at night before going to bed. Yes these things do happen however we do not have to dwell on them. It does impact your thinking and emotions. After all you do have your life to start each day so living and reading about mayhem in another life or part of the world is not going to improve yours for the better. Do not worry about falling behind on the news, the media will make sure to report any fear based or negative messages at least a 100 times a day. If that is important to you then watch the news once a week and you most likely will be caught up. My suggestion is you try not to be caught up in all that since it takes away from things you could productively be doing, things you enjoy so much more. Notice how you feel after watching or reading negativity in the news. Since hardly any of it is positive you most likely will feel worst after the fact. I’m not trying to be insensitive to these things because again these things do happen however does it need to affect you if you have no control over the matter? Sympathy is fine and lending a helping hand if you are able. It is better left alone however if it controls your mood, emotions and the condition of how your day will start or end. Now let us move on to greener pastures. Take the time to reflect on your life you have right now. There is no need to dwell on past mistakes, if you learned from them then the past is where they need to stay. Right now is the time and only time there is to start making changes. It is easy to say I will do this now and work on the changes later. That is because you are comfortable with a routine even though it is causing you the pain and suffering you say you want out of. You may say I do want out of this but I have to do so and so. Hey many of those things will still be there. Would it not be in your best interest to take just 5 minutes to close your eyes to just ponder on what you are going to change in your life to something you desire? Write it down as to make sure not to forget when you have that inspiring idea. It is like wanting to change jobs, how do you do that? Amazingly some people feel stuck and say they cannot for there are no other jobs out there or maybe there are but they do not have the experience, hours, pay, or any excuse that seems valid so I’m still stuck where I am. I want to say really?! Are you so sure about that? It is easier to have that mindset because it does not involve much research or extra time that needs to be put into it. Maybe you have heard it from other people. However if you really want a change in a job or any situation YOU WILL make the time to get out there and look, do the research it pays off. What if every self-made millionaire said well that person was just lucky or smarter than me then they would have never taken the next step to create what was in their head that produced the results that brought in the abundance of money.

Hey I’m the first to admit that change is not comfortable at first, although neither is the pain of living day to day in a rut you want out of. Once the pain of doing what you do over rides the fear of change and commitment then you will take the change seriously. I quit a job that I used to enjoy of 21 years with 9 years to go for full retirement. My friends said I was insane however the last year of working in there was misery and I could not fathom another 9 years of my life in a place that I had come to not even be motivated. This is my life and others cannot live it for me so it is in my best interest to be happy where I am now. We are not promised tomorrow so I was not willing to gamble another 9 years that seems like forever when you are not happy. My passion is to help those whom like myself, had been living in chaos of constant running with what seemed like no means to an end in sight.

It really is possible however that is only if “YOU” make it possible. You are in charge of your life. Every decision you have made whether involving others or just yourself have had the influence and paved the path to where you are now. Therefore it only makes sense that you use the power you possess inside of you and start making these changes. Start small or start large just start! Stay with it and be persistent, it will become a habit. Do not let other things take that joy away from you. Do not blame others and give them your power. Make time for yourself, do the things you enjoy. Make time for your family. Start moving towards your own desire and quality of life. Write goals daily, even if you just start with one, that is still one more than you had previously. Follow through, no excuses, if you miss that goal you set for a certain day then work on it till it has come to pass. You will find that it becomes easier and your confidence will soar.

Now that you have somewhere to start then get rolling and I wish you all the success and happiness you deserve.

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Frustration Part 1

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Frustration

There is not anybody alive who has not experienced frustration of some sort. There are so many things in our lives that can cause frustration. Going to work when you do not feel like it, hating your job and wanting out and feeling stuck, change of schedule, family getting sick, school, scheduling or changes of some sort. Dealing with an over bearing boss, spouse, teenager, family member or friend and the list goes on.

It is more easy to get frustrated when there is not a balance in our life or there is disruption. How do we manage to keep a balance? Does the battle ever end? Are we meant to just wake up, start the day to get everything possible done just to go to bed exhausted only to wake up the next morning to do it all over again? We do endless things only looking for that day off that can’t come soon enough or a vacation that never last long enough. That is if we can work a vacation in at all. Is this truly living? When do we say enough is enough and change our routine? Although routine can be a nice thing when you are living your dreams and not stressing to the max. Is it any wonder people feel guilty for not having enough time for their family and even more so no time for them self? We are deserving of a good life that is not hectic and chaotic so how do we get there? Why are things the way they are and it seems the majority of people we know is experiencing this phenomenon.

We feel broken, confused, over worked emotionally and physically. The feeling of life should have more to offer than this. How are we able to get out of this cycle? Nothing seems to change and when it does it only adds more stress due to being an unwanted change. Is there a solution to all this madness? Well I’m here to tell you there is and help is on the way. Check out my next article on answer to frustration part 2 that will be released on my blog next week. Make sure to sign up via email so not to miss a post.

Overcoming Fear

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The day of conquering.

Fear can come in different forms. We are going to cover the fear of being inadequate which can also go with lack of confidence. This can hinder you from obtaining a job you are seeking or even pursuing a relationship for fear of rejection. Now am I saying that if you conquer fear that you will never be or feel rejected? Absolutely not, however you will come to know that the rejection is not anything you need to take personal and you should not take it that way even if the other person says it is. Remember when other people are involved it is about them and you are to work on you. Move on, knock the dust off your feet and you will become successful if you keep moving forward. Do not ever let this be an excuse or reason for not to continue. Regardless of what others do you are accountable for your life where ever you are right now. Never give up and if you make a mistake just remember you found another way that did not work and learned from it. As long as you are seeking and moving forward you will be lead to other chances and opportunities. If it is a relationship scenario, consider this, you would not want to be with someone who is not sure of themselves, have trust in you or especially someone who doesn’t want to be with you, after all you deserve better than that. Sometimes it is just a compatibility conflict. To pursue a relationship that will have major issues is only creating disaster and that is the last thing you need in your life. You are worth so much more than that. Never settle for crumbs when there is a buffet of life waiting for you to take of your choosing. Who wants old stale sticky situations unless you are into drama. If that is your thing then I suggest you quit reading this now and go to Facebook and friend request people who like to hang their dirty laundry for all to see or some other social media site. To be blunt those type of people are as the saying goes “birds of a feather flock together”. However if you are still reading this then most likely you are after the Gold in life and I am happy to see you think more of yourself because you are worthy. We have talked about relationships now were going to move on to careers. If you are dissatisfied in your job and just put up with it because it brings a pay check and pays the bills then you are not really “living”. You are just sustaining and getting by. Let me make a suggestion, get out there and find the jobs that are in line with your passion. If you do not know what your passion is then think of all the things you like and cannot live without. Something you would do even if money was not involved. Some people love exercise therefore they work as a fitness trainer or aerobics instructor because they are getting paid to do something they would be doing anyway while enjoying it as well. Go beyond the fear and fill out the applications, send resumes, go to interviews. The worst that can happen is you will not get the job however you will gain experience. If you keep on not only will the experience of it help build your confidence, this will lead to being hired. The key is to never give up and never settle for less. Then there is the option of starting your own business, if that is what you want to do then quit with the excuses and get started.

Now that we have covered some of the topics of fear and how there is no excuse, you can conquer anything that needs nothing more than the hero inside of you, get out and make things happen. Get the results you want in your life, show yourself the love that is due and deserved. Each day is a gift that you open every time you wake up so make the best of what you have been given and you will find that you are given more. Do not be surprised as you get the ball rolling that it snowballs into much more than you could even imagine. Things just start falling into place and you created that. It had nothing to do with luck it had everything to do with you and your drive to make things happen.

To your success and happiness.